Building Self Esteem

Self-esteem is your personal view of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.  Everyone has a different view of themselves, but keeping a positive outlook will benefit you more than a negative one.  Many individuals suffer from low self-esteem for various reasons and need to build their self-esteem to succeed.  Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else.  The same goes for self-esteem.  You are the only person who can build up—or consequentially tear down—your self-esteem.  Although other individuals may aid the process, the end decision is yours.

People have low esteem for a variety of reasons.  Some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance.  Others have emotional issues that have caused their self-esteem to drop or make them feel unworthy of praise.  For whatever reasons your self-esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem.  Think of self-esteem like a house; if you build a stunning home on a poor foundation, the entire structure will crumble.  However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is solid and capable of holding anything, the process may be slow, but your self-esteem will be built soundly.  

Many individuals seek help for their low self-esteem in books or seminars.  The number of available options on the market is phenomenal, and you will find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues.  Check out your local library or bookstore and explore their “self-help” section for a book that you may find helpful.  It is unlikely you will find the answers to all your problems in a book, but you may find it helpful to know others are in the same boat and you are certainly not alone.  Additionally, you may wish to seek professional help in your quest to boost your self-esteem.   Often, speaking with a qualified individual can help you determine the root of your problem and the critical path you should take for rebuilding.  Perhaps your issues date back to childhood, or maybe it has recently developed.  Whatever the case, a professional can best determine your next step.

The main factor in self-esteem is negativity.  Negative thoughts can pervade your confidence and crumble your self-esteem.  If you are surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to remedy the problem best.  Often, individuals in an abusive relationship have their self-esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth.  Similarly, a hostile work environment can lower your self-esteem with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work.  Maybe you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding them.  Whatever the source, distancing yourself from negativity will help you regain self-esteem.  Strive to surround yourself with positive people.  If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you may wish to join a support group.  Similarly, there are support groups available for individuals with self-image issues.  These groups will allow you to meet other individuals like yourself and provide a forum for you to sound your hopes and achievements.

However, if you choose to begin building your self-esteem, do so today!  Be thorough and consistent with the process, and be aware that it may take a while.  You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self-esteem slipping.  Remember, you are important and worthy and should treat yourself as such.