From a very young age, it is ingrained in most people that they should be kind and courteous to others. This usually translates to saying kind words and helping people when needed. However, for others, this can extend to unhealthy extremes when the need to help comes at the expense of their own needs.

Have you recently come to realise that you are a people pleaser? Don't worry. This is a common revelation. But now that you've discovered you are a people pleaser; it's time to stop being one for your health and sanity. Here are some ways you can learn to stop being a people pleaser.

If you have ever been, or are currently a people pleaser, then you know how hard it is to permanently break the habit of putting others before yourself. As much stress and anxiety pleasing others cause you, it can get worse when you choose to stop - at least initially. This is because of the guilt and shame that come into play when you start saying "no." Deciding to stop people-pleasing is an essential step towards your freedom. You should know that three important things happen when you stop people-pleasing.