Self-Empowerment For Women: You Must permit Yourself To Tap Into Your Own Power

Just give it a shot; you’re good enough to get it. 

I don’t know anybody more capable than you. 

Have you ever motivated and encouraged your friends with statements like the above? The majority of women have had conversations like this with their female friends. Unfortunately, they don’t often give themselves the same level of encouragement. You’re not alone in this if it’s something you’re guilty of. It’s something many women experience – the crippling self-doubt that they are happy to chase away for their friends but seem to wallow in it themselves. It’s hard! 

It’s time to permit yourself to tap into your own power. The hesitance to do so is rooted in a lack of self-belief and is further complicated by a dose of self-doubt. What if you allowed yourself to be open to the greatness within you? 

You would start making more space for good things to happen. We can argue about whether or not you should need to permit yourself, but you will know whether you need to do it based on your level of self-belief. You shouldn’t need to, but you might have to. 

External factors influence life-changing decisions, such as a lack of resources and experience. Unfortunately, they are often why we don’t make those decisions to further those changes. 

Whether it’s a genuine reason or a fear, it is holding you back. So instead, we look to others for permission to make the moves we know we should or need to make. Your gut is sending you a message, and you’re ignoring it for external validation.

Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is a significant factor for many women – and it’s why so many women struggle to permit themselves. It’s a profound inability to accept your ability, skill, and greatness. And that inability to accept that can limit your ability to enjoy your life. It can also impact your ability to succeed. 

Permission isn’t necessarily about significant life changes. It can be acknowledging your feelings or allowing yourself to feel your emotions. When you take the space, you need to acknowledge your dissatisfaction; you open the door to change.

You don’t have to fight unhappiness; you can acknowledge its presence, relieve the pressure, and give yourself space to put a plan of action in place to change things. 

Giving Permission 

There are three things to focus on to practice permitting yourself. 

  • The first is showing yourself the compassion you so easily extend to others. You are willing to give your loved ones permission and encouragement, and it’s time to use a mirror and reflect that back onto yourself. It’s great that you’re there for the people you love, but you need to be there for yourself just as much. 

    You deserve the same consideration you extend to everyone else. You don’t need to succeed every time, but you move closer to your goals every time you put yourself out there. 
  • The second is celebrating even the smallest wins because every baby step forward is still a move forward. The destination is not the point of life – it’s the journey we take on the way. Unfortunately, many people are so caught up in the destination that they miss the view on the way. 

    You must pay attention to the strides you make on your path to success. So, permit yourself to celebrate every win. It’s a great way to reinforce that you are powerful. 
  • The third is to get over your ideas about how things should unfold. It’s easy to get caught up in what might come from a situation. And if it doesn’t unfold as planned, we are faced with disappointment. It’s a form of fortune-telling. 

    You convince yourself it will go a certain way, and you’re not prepared for the eventual outcome. It’s holding you back from good things. Forget the prediction-making and go into everything with a healthy level of self-belief. You’re permitting yourself to go with the flow when you let go of the outcome. And a plan is important, but sometimes you need to be more flexible about what could be.