When trying to improve yourself, reach your goals, and realise your potential, there is plenty of advice about the best way to do those things. Self-help guides and articles are plentiful, all filled with advice about what to do to improve yourself. Unfortunately, few offer ideas for avoiding the common mistakes people make when focusing on personal growth. What are those common mistakes? And how can you prevent them? Keep reading to learn more.
1. Reaching Too High
Setting big goals is essential, but climbing a mountain isn’t exactly within your current reach if you have not exercised in years. Those who are most successful with personal growth set realistic, attainable goals that help them to strive toward even larger ones later. Small, incremental changes result in lasting habits you take with you throughout your life. So, yes, you CAN lose 40 pounds in two months, but SHOULD you?
2. Following Someone Else’s Path
Personal growth and development are about realising YOUR potential, which means your path and needs are unique to you. It is excellent that your best friend found happiness through Tai Chi and a new career. But is that what you need? Personal development should focus on what is important to you, not what has worked for others.
3. Being Inconsistent
Many people start on a journey toward healing or growth and then get upset when they do not see results in their life quickly or even after some time. The truth is, people are hard to change, especially in their daily habits, and when you do not practice something regularly, it will not make much difference. Consistency is critical when trying to develop new habits or mindsets. A little bit every day will get you where you want to be. But it takes time.
4. Striving for Perfection
Many people find themselves paralysed in their development work because they are bound by the idea that they must be perfect for doing it “right.” By its very definition, growth requires learning, which means you must make mistakes and learn from them. Personal development is about action, not perfection. And the sooner you let go of the notion that you need to be perfect to achieve your goals, the happier and more successful you will be.
5. Giving Your Power Away to Others
For many of us, personal growth is hard to consider on our own. So, seek advice from others, see a counsellor, or hire a coach. Pretty soon, you have lots of people telling you what you need and what to do, and before you know it, your journey is not yours anymore. Yes, others can be helpful with their advice, but you should be the one making the decisions and driving the choices for how you want to attain those dreams or what goals you are striving for.
6. Celebrating the Wrong Victories
While it is essential to acknowledge your hard-fought battles and to recognise the victories in your self-growth journey, it is often the case that these celebrations become an endpoint rather than a stepping stone. We all know someone who has lost a lot of weight only to regain it after a bit of time has passed. For them, the victory was the number on the scale, not the adoption of healthier habits. They were focused on the product, not the process. And it is in the process that our attention and value should lie.