Life is a journey of self-discovery. It should be an adventure, but adventures aren’t always easy. Unfortunately, you don’t have an instruction manual or a map to guide you on your way, but sure signs suggest you’re not where you need to be. So, what signs tell you that you need to learn who you are?
- You Don’t Know What You Want.
Don’t know what you want if you don’t know your values, what you care about, or what goals you have? It’s a sign that you don’t know anything about yourself. If you struggle to imagine a clear vision for yourself, you have a lot to learn.
- You’re An Indecisive Mind-Changing Mess
Indecisiveness goes hand-in-hand with point one. If you change your mind all the time or struggle to make a decision, then it clearly indicates that you don’t know yourself. Knowing who you are will make you feel confident and secure in making those decisions for yourself. If you’re into one person or thing today, but tomorrow it’s something else, you must do a little self-reflection.
- Living With Regret
Do you have any regrets? When you know what you stand for and have a clear view of who you are, you will make decisions that align with that. That tends to result in much fewer regrets. You make better decisions when you act in line with your authentic self. Your best interests will always be at heart if you align with your values. But, if you say many things, you regret or do many things you regret because you have no idea who you are.
- You Wear Different Faces
The reality of humankind is that different people tease out different sides of us. There are friends you will talk about sports with and people with whom you may have political or religious chats.
Sometimes those worlds don’t collide. It’s normal for adults to have different groups of friends with different interests and avoid those groups intersecting. However, if you change your opinions, beliefs, or values when you’re in other groups, that is a problem that suggests you have no idea who you are. Certain things should remain consistent, no matter who you’re with.
- The Difference Between Your External & Internal World
If you have ever found yourself in a position where you think wow, this person truly sees me for who I am… that’s a sign. You see yourself as being one thing or one way internally, but other people see you differently externally. It might be a mismatch in how you present yourself or a case of their perception. But, if you don’t believe your inner world matches your outer world, it suggests you don’t know who you are.
- You Often Settle
People who know whom they know precisely what they want, but if you find yourself settling constantly, you don’t know yourself. You should have a clear vision of who you are and what you deserve, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less. Don’t settle for what’s easy; push for the respect you deserve.
- You Lack Self-Confidence
People who know themselves and love the person they are, tend to be highly confident. They will hold their head high as they navigate the world. They stand up for themselves and expect the world to show them respect. It isn’t easy to believe in your abilities if you don’t know who you are. Without confidence, there’s no self-belief, and without that? How can you trust yourself?
- Chaos surrounds you
Chaos and drama are merely distractions. People always lean into it and live for it, but they won’t serve you well. It’s a distraction from something else. You need to ask yourself what you’re hiding from if you are surrounded by chaos. Because it’s a clear indication that you don’t know who you are.
- You Feel Unfulfilled
It doesn’t matter what’s happening in your life; if you feel unfulfilled or unsatisfied, it’s because you don’t know who you are. And, if you don’t know who you are, you can’t serve yourself properly.
You can feel fulfilled while still chasing more significant and better things. But, if you never feel satisfied and don’t feel confident in yourself, you haven’t taken the time to know yourself. You might be thinking, but I don’t feel dissatisfied. Do you feel satisfied? Because if you don’t feel happy, you are unhappy, whether you realise it or not.
- You Often Ask Who Am I?
This shouldn’t require much explanation. You shouldn’t need someone else to answer for you. If you constantly find yourself in situations that don’t feel right, you feel like something is always off; then you know the answer.
If you often wonder who you are, you need to take steps to get a clearer vision of who that person is, what you should be doing, and how you should move forward.
The only way to create a fulfilling life is to have a clear vision of who you are. It’s how you discover your purpose, how you develop goals, and how you shape the life you want to live. You can’t manifest that life unless you know it’s what you want.
Self-discovery isn’t accidental; it’s a journey you must take knowingly. It’s a journey worth taking, but you have to decide it’s the journey you want to take. And in doing so, you will feel more secure, more confident, and more fulfilled.
There is no greater journey you can take than the one of self-discovery. It’s the greatest gift you will ever give yourself, and it will also benefit the people in your life.