In today’s day and age, it is easy to feel run over, walked on, or have no power over your choices.
The feeling of powerlessness can be annoying, frustrating, and downright upsetting.
Are co-workers or job demands overwhelming?
Do you spend most of your time and energy on other people’s needs instead of your own?
Are you a doormat?
Do you feel lost in your life? Are you out of touch with your needs and desires?
These are common ways in which we feel powerless.
No matter what challenges you’re facing, you can always become self-empowered. In this article, we will outline self-empowerment in more detail.
Self-empowerment is the ability to take control of your life. It is making positive decisions based on what you want to achieve.
Self-empowerment is closely related to and often linked to self-confidence and self-esteem.
Self-empowerment goes beyond esteem and confidence as it encompasses not only intentions but takes those intentions and turns them into actions.
Self-empowerment is different from self-entitlement. Those with a strong sense of self-entitlement believe they should be given privileges and benefits automatically.
Those with a sense of self-empowerment believe they achieve their privileges, benefits, and success through hard work. They do not think anything should just be given to them.
Everyone experiences self-empowerment in different ways. Common signs of self-empowerment are included below:
- Having a positive attitude
- Goal chaser
- Dream chaser
- Knowing who you are
- Going after what you want – motivated, persistent proactive
- Setting reasonable goals
- Circle of positive people
- Practising self-care
- Being assertive
- Using action or to-do lists
The below example illustrates three different experiences involving self-empowerment.
Bobby, Amanda, and Jess are all office workers. All three have worked for the same company for over five years. An open supervisory role is opening shortly, and all three workers can apply for the position. Bobby, Amanda, and Jess each have the knowledge and skills to be successful in the supervisory role. Below illustrates how each worker relates to self-empowerment.
Bobby doesn’t feel he would be considered for the position even though he is qualified. He feels powerless as it relates to the upcoming supervisory role and, as such, does not apply for it. He has little to no self-empowerment.
Amanda: She enjoys her position and does not want additional responsibilities as she believes it will diminish her enjoyment. Amanda makes a confident and conscious decision not to apply for the open supervisor position. Amanda has a strong sense of self-empowerment.
Jess: Believes she is ready and able to apply for the open supervisor position. She believes that she will be able to be successful with the additional responsibilities. Jess confidently applies for the job. She has a strong sense of self-empowerment.
In general, feeling self-empowered makes you feel like a rock star! Strong, confident, able and proactive in your own life!
If you are experiencing or can remember a time when you felt like Bobby from the above example, don’t worry. There are several different ways to increase your self-empowerment. Some of these ways are included below:
Knowing yourself is the first way to increase your self-empowerment. Building self-awareness, learning your strengths and weaknesses, and recognising your triggers are all components of knowing yourself.
Setting goals is the second way to increase your self-empowerment. Determining where you want to go and creating a road map to get there will help lift your spirit, give you confidence, and help you believe in yourself more.
The third way to increase self-empowerment is to continue growing and keep yourself open to learning. Jump at every opportunity, take a new class, enrol in a new course, and improve your communication skills.